
Cults demand absolute, unquestioning obedience from their members. In the cult of Racer X, this is how I will enforce obedience.
With each passing day, I become increasingly detached from the Catholic Church. The latest controversy over contraception is just another straw on the proverbial camel’s back.
I don’t give a fuck about contraception. I think the whole argument is ridiculous. Again, it is another example of the Church being obsessed over sexual matters. If we look at this rationally, would it not make sense that a Church whose leadership is exclusively made up of celibate men would be obsessed with sexual morality? The teaching that every single sexual act needs to be open to the procreation of life, otherwise it is a sin, is something I simply do not believe in.
I am just sick of it all: the teachings against homosexuality, contraception, sexual purity, etc. The fact that 98% of Catholic women use some form of contraception is the clearest evidence of the great divide between what the Church teaches on sexual ethics and the practice of the ordinary member of that Church. Most Catholics simply do not follow all the teachings of the Church. They never have and never will.
I find it amusing when I see women listen to and obey celibate, and often homosexual, clergy telling them that they should not use contraception, engage in sex outside of marriage, masturbate, etc. I suppose they are part of the one percent of the Catholic women who do not use contraception, for whatever reason. I often wonder if the entire Catholic Church could really be distilled down to a meager one percent of people who actually believe and practice the faith. If everyone who did not practice every tenet of the faith were excommunicated from the Church, which is what most orthodox Catholics would like, in the name of religious purity, the Church would look quite different.
At this point in my life, I simply feel divorced from many of the official teachings of this Church. I really do not belong or fit in with the average parish. I certainly do not subscribe to the idealized vision of Catholic family life that is so often promoted. My world, my experiences are different. I dislike the cold logic of theology so popular among Catholic apologists, especially when it pertains to spirituality and human behaviors. The common answer to these issues is: well, just submit and be humble and obey. The Church authorities know what is right. It is prideful for you to think for yourself. Think of Jesus.
When I hear such a response, I begin to wonder if the Catholic Church is not the world’s biggest cult. After all, many of the structures between a cult and the Church are similar. Cults often function on the notion that God has instilled anointed leaders with divine wisdom. The follower is to obey, for it is in the best interest of their soul, and if they do not obey, they will be punished somehow, either in this life or the next. Fear and intimidation are used to support those in power. Dialogue and discussion are suppressed. Ignorance is encouraged. Reading things that the leaders deem threatening is prohibited. We are told, as Catholics, to obey the bishops, the Church’s teaching, and if we question things, we are “prideful” and not “obedient”. We are told what movies and books to read, all in the name of spiritual purity. The theologian and priest Charles Curran was banned from teaching at a Catholic institution because he questioned the Church’s teachings on sexual ethics. This, at the same time the Church was promoting and complimenting the child rapist founder of the cult like Legion of Christ, Marcial Maciel, as a “efficacious guide to youth”. Exclusion from heaven is the ultimate threat of not obeying what we are told to think. Looking at these things from a purely historical or sociological perspective, the Church looks really fucked up.

The Ayatollah Rick Santorum, once he is elected President and ushers in an era or religious utoptia in the United States. This is what makes holy Catholic women wet.
I am supposed to simply believe in something, such as the prohibition on contraception, which I think to be ludicrous? Am I really supposed to think that the gay people I know and like are somehow morally evil and disordered? Am I really supposed to suppress all my sexual desires, my complete sexuality, until the night I might be married? I am not suppose to question that? If I do question that, I am being “prideful”? If I write about it here, I am often called “hateful”. “Why bother even calling yourself a Catholic, or a Christian for that matter” is what the holy disciples often tell me. It is all becoming too much for me.
Furthermore, the outright hatred and prejudice I see coming from so many Christians is disturbing. The Catholic blogosphere is the worst. Gay people are evil. Single mothers are sinners. Anyone not “saved” is somehow flawed. The world went to hell in 1960, everything before then was a golden age of Catholic purity. The world is often portrayed by Christians as a Manichean struggle betwen good and evil. Republicans are on the side of goodness, Democrats are evil. The consequent spiritual pride is often overwhelming. But the sad fact is that this has always been a part of Christianity. From the earliest days, Christians cut themselves off from the corrupted world, believing they were better than others, purer, part of God’s chosen people. This of course will lead to a serious epidemic of spiritual pride. How can it not? We can see this most vividly in the splintering of Christianity itself into numerous sects, each one thinking it has the true, pure faith, while everyone else is tainted. Catholic vs. Orthodox, Catholic vs. Protestant, Protestant vs. Protestant, etc. I suppose this is only inevitable with human nature and religion. But it is something I do not want to be a part of. Belief in God, yes, a deep spiritual life, yes, being part of a group which triumphantly believes it is the sole recipient of absolute truth, no.
So now we have this whole contraception absurdity upon us. The orthodox Catholic media is out in full force, from EWTN to Bill Donahue to Rick Santorum crusading for the teaching of Holy Mother Church, the same teachings that 98% of Holy Mother Church’s precious children do not believe in. The Bishops are telling us we need to be obedient to them now. On a social and political, Church and State issue, I can understand the principles of this, but it still makes me uncomfortable, seeing that this is dealing with a teaching most Catholics ignore. The disconnect is simply too great. And is not contraception at least one way to keep down the abortion rate? What about helping women not die in childbirth, as use to be quite common, by helping them control their reproductive lives?
The immutable fact of nature is that people are going to fuck, nothing is ever going to change that, so helping to keep down the unwanted pregnancy rate is a good thing. Contraception helps with that.
But alas…let me end this by promoting one of my favorite topics: erotic beauty. Here is beautiful naked woman for the religious puritans to condemn. Fuck you, assholes.
And as far as contraception, well, when I fuck a woman, I use it, in one form or another. So again, fuck you, religious fanatics.



Zorro said:
In the very Catholic country of Brazil, it is very common for a woman to protect her hymen for marriage, but is very willing to do anal.
Religion is so amusing.
Twenty said:
If everyone who did not practice every tenet of the faith were excommunicated from the Church, which is what most orthodox Catholics would like …
I think that what you wrote there is the opposite of true. It doesn’t even make sense in the context of a religion that makes such a big deal of the Sacrament of Penance.
natewalis said:
As the famous quote goes: When one person runs around making insane and totally unfounded claims, we call them insane. When millions of people are doing it in unison, the label of insane is insufficient to describe the phenomenon. That’s why we came up with the term “Religion” to describe it instead.
It seems pretty obvious that if there were an organisation that disseminated homophobic, bigoted, illogical and demonstrably harmful information that it required be taken as serious and true and then on top of that sheltered criminals guilty of serious sexual crimes against the vulnerable and minors, they’d be hounded to the ends of the earth by the authorities and all right-thinking human beings.
Of course if the organisation is a religion, all those things are simply accepted as part and parcel of the maddness inherant in the system.
7man said:
Your analysis makes some valid points, but the passion and femininity of a woman not on Birth Control is a beautiful thing that is not experienced often. The high desire of an ovulating woman and her abject craving for a dominant man opens up so many possibilities.
Then there is the desire to deposit my cum deep within my woman and her desire to receive this. Experiencing this means owning one good woman, which is a problem, since such quality women are rare.
I remember an airline flight about 6 months ago. The stewardess was attractive (not an HB10), but she walked by a few times, was good at casual banter and I could not concentrate on anything (but her) for the rest of the flight. After I got off the plane, I realized that she must have been a woman that did not take the pill and she was ovulating. It was a delight, which is eclipsed by the effect CL has on me.
Last night CL and I were discussing how few comments we get on many of our blog posts. It seems we are the eclectic branch of the manosphere and others don’t quite know what to make of the topics we write about. Economic Hard Times Linked to Societal Sexuality Changes The world needs more people willing to put controversial ideas out there. Such matters have not always been so repressed.
So while I disagree with you, I applaud your writing on this subject.
thesecond said:
If catholicism is a cult, then it’s not a very effective cult if 98% of catholic women are using contraceptions. Not that that statistic was all catholic women- it was only women of age 15-44 who were sexually active. The actual percentage is somewhere between 10-20%. And they don’t necessarily use them regularly, they only have to have used them at least once.
http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/fact-checker/post/the-claim-that-98-percent-of-catholic-women-use-contraception-a-media-foul/2012/02/16/gIQAkPeqIR_blog.html
Cults tend to have different characteristics. You cite
“Cults often function on the notion that God has instilled anointed leaders with divine wisdom.”
Cults tend to make the leader a messiah or a god, not one with divine wisdom, since they are centred around that leader.
“Fear and intimidation are used to support those in power.”
The catholic church doesn’t tend to use intimidation, though it uses a bit of fear. Cults tend to use mind warping things like chanting or heavy work routines to break people’s minds, and actual intimidation and punishments like physical violence. Fear is normal in society. Schools use fear to keep students off drugs say. Businesses use fear to make their workers work.
“The theologian and priest Charles Curran was banned from teaching at a Catholic institution because he questioned the Church’s teachings on sexual ethics.”
That’s normal, groups ban people who dissent from the party line. Cults ban association with any non cult members.
Really, it just sounds like you disagree with them morally. There’s no need to bring cult analogies into it. They have their point of view, you have yours. Cults are horrific things and are very different to norrmal organisations like the church.
Butterfly Flower said:
Over the past decade, Catholicism really shot itself in the foot. By appealing to the ultra-orthodox-traditionalists, the Vatican alienated the average practicing Catholic and pretty-much invited them to leave the faith. “So you want to use condoms? Don’t let the door hit you on the way out!”
I wish the church would bump up the age of sacraments. I mean, when a Catholic makes their sacraments, they should at least know what they’re signing up for [i.e. no birth control ever]. I felt hoodwinked when I found out said fact as a teenager.
What about helping women not die in childbirth, as use to be quite common, by helping them control their reproductive lives?
[Since I suffer from severe active Rheumatoid Arthritis] I’ve asked this question numerous times, and the answers I receive are often frightening. For starters, traditionalists glorify death by childbirth. If I was a good Catholic girl, I would ignore my doctor’s orders and willingly enter a high-risk pregnancy. I’m a selfish sinner because I’m unwilling to risk my own life to conceive a baby. Not only that, I take an extraordinarily teratogenic medication known as Methotrexate. Apparently Catholics aren’t even allowed to use birth control to avoid conceiving fetuses damaged by medications [technically Catholics aren't even supposed to take Methotrexate, but that's another story].
Although I am no longer a Catholic, I will never be able to get over the fact that I was criticized for valuing my life more than my potential for having a baby [I take sinful womb-poisoning Methotrexate]. When I needed God the most, I was treated like damaged goods that deserved to suffer.
Racer X said:
Zorro,
Religion produces some of the strangest, schizophrenic behaviors imaginable.
Twenty,
What is the point of going to penance for something you do not believe is a sin, such as contraception or masturbation?
Racer X said:
Natewalis,
Thanks for the comment.
“It seems pretty obvious that if there were an organisation that disseminated homophobic, bigoted, illogical and demonstrably harmful information that it required be taken as serious and true and then on top of that sheltered criminals guilty of serious sexual crimes against the vulnerable and minors, they’d be hounded to the ends of the earth by the authorities and all right-thinking human beings.”
Agreed.
Racer X said:
7man,
For those who want to forgo the use of contraception, that is fine. I respect that. I am sure it has its benefits. But it is simply not realistic or practical to expect everyone to forgo these things. The Church is completely outdated in this matter. Is it not better to accept contraception to keep down unwanted pregnancies, and therefore abortion? Even Benedict said that the use of condoms to keep down the spread of AIDs is not morally objectionable.
I agree with you as being in a difficult spot within the manosphere. I would not invest too much in comment sections though. If you look at most blogs with a lot of comments, it is usually the same handful of people commenting twenty times during the course of a day. Also, the more inflammatory the blog, the higher the comments will be. I think your blog is more thoughtful than inflammatory. The issues discussed make many people uncomfortable, and afraid. Most religious oriented blogs do want to ask questions about sex the way you do. But these are necessary questions to raise. Keep up the good work.
Racer X said:
The Second,
Thanks for the comment. It is the one percent who are the hard core cultish. If you look at certain groups, such as Opus Dei or the Legion of Christ, or Regnum Christi, they display many cult like tendencies. Many say they are outright cults. This is well documented. The ones who defend every teaching of the Church seem to be the most like programmed robots.
For the average parishioner, the Church is not a cult. Still, the Church does use some methods that are similar to cults, even on the average Church goer.
The reality is the Catholic Church opposes thinking for oneself. It is part and parcel of its theology and modus operandi. Since the magisterium is considered the instrument of God’s voice and will, the Bishops the true successors to Christ and the Apostles, if I disagree with a certain theological issue, I am told I am in the wrong, my experiences are invalid, and I must be humble and submit to the “truth”, even to the point of suspending my own beliefs. Guilt is used as a weapon of punishment. As a life long Catholic I know and have experienced these things. These things are cult like.
Racer X said:
Butterfly,
Yes, you can see in the present political situation within the Republican party how little reproductive rights are valued. What these people want is to create some sort of religious utopia. Controlling and shaming women is part of their methods.
There are many good things about the Catholic Church too. I simply feel it is important to bring to light what are the bad and problematic things too. It is process I am working through right now.
Southern Man said:
Not Catholic but fundamentalist Protestant and still am. And it took a lifetime to overcome my church’s teachings on sex, particularly that as a male I should always feel guilty about wanting it.
Racer X said:
Southern Man,
Thanks for the comment. Yes, I can certainly understand how it would take a lifetime to overcome these things. The guilt factor is a big one.
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Butterfly Flower said:
There are many good things about the Catholic Church too. I simply feel it is important to bring to light what are the bad and problematic things too. It is process I am working through right now.
I admire your strength, and wish you the best of luck. I realize the Catholic Church isn’t entirely awful; however, my faith has been irreversibly fractured. I tried, honestly – but I just can’t dismiss the pain the church caused me. & whenever I tried talking to the clergy, they somehow managed to make everything worse [...yeah, I wouldn't recommend telling a priest you're having doubts and considering leaving the church; I've noticed they aren't fond of apostasy. & don't bother talking to other Catholics about your doubts, they're just as bad as priests, if not worse.]
Racer X said:
Butterfly,
Yeah, I can understand how you have been damaged by certain aspects of Catholicism. And you are right, apostasy is not a popular thing within the Church!
David Collard said:
BF, it depends why you are taking methotrexate, surely?
My daughter is taking roacutane for acne, which can cause birth defects, but she is not sexually active AFAIK.
David Collard said:
BTW, I love the way women are mostly shown facing left for their spankings (the depicted book cover). Left-handed men presumably position their woman facing right.
Someone should do a study.
Racer X said:
David,
Haha…you are right. I am left handed and I always face a woman who needs a spanking to my right. I never noticed that before.
You have just made a profound discovery!
David Collard said:
I am right-handed and I always make my wife face left over my lap.
I am pleased to have helped the progress of social science.
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Butterfly Flower said:
BF, it depends why you are taking methotrexate, surely?
No, it doesn’t. If I were to get married in a Catholic Church, I wouldn’t be able to have sex with my future husband because MTX is highly teratogenic and damages/kills fetuses. The only other option is being an evil hell-bound sinner who uses birth control [stopping MTX isn't an option - I need it to stay alive].
Lately, I’ve been trying to let the issue go. The RCC isn’t at fault – my illness isn’t common. Once I had been diagnosed, I should have immediately switched to a denomination that accommodates Christians suffering from Rheumatoid Arthritis. I shouldn’t have expected the Catholic Church to have doctrine that applied to my situation and I shouldn’t expect them to create one. There’s more important issues for church leaders to focus on.
My daughter is taking roacutane for acne, which can cause birth defects, but she is not sexually active AFAIK
In the US, patients taking roacutane have to either sign an abstinence pledge, or go on birth control. Ever since thalidomide my country takes teratogens very seriously. My medicine bottles are covered in “never take while pregnant or TTC!” stickers.
slowlearner said:
Weak logic. For example, what percentage of catholics or any Christian faith . . .
never lie.
I’ll make it easy for you – zero percent.
Just because the rules are hard to follow doesn’t mean we do away with the rules. They are still the rules. That’s why we are, pardon the pun, screwed without Jesus. Secularists say that anytime someone fails to live up to a rule they espouse then the rule should be thrown out. That’s stupid.
Nobody ever lives up to all the rules all the time. Nobody. Even Jesus lost his temper – look it up. What weapon did he make with his own hand per the bible? Okay it was probably rightous, but he didn’t just give em a stern talking to . . .
It is amazing how hung up people, who aren’t supposed to be hung up, are about sex.
slowlearner said:
Why do you think you should feel guilty about thinking about sex?
Do you feel guilty about getting hungry?
I can see how you might feel guilty if you are on a diet and you binge and fall of the rails and eat a gallon of ice cream, that you would feel guilty.
Same thing sex people. You do get horny. You are supposed to manage your behavior. You are going to slip. Try not to be a pig about it.
Again – very uptight about sex, when its not being treated differently than other appetites. If you don’t feel guilty about getting hungry don’t feel guilty about wanting to bang the living crap about of that hot piece of ass walking down the street. Now if you go ahead and do it, that’s kind of like falling off your diet . . . Of course with more significant consequences, STD, Fatal Attraction, Angry Stalker boyfriend waiting to kill you . . .not to mention the sex before marriage thingy. I mean there are many cogent practical reasons for not acting like a sex pig before you ever get to the theological ones. If you mess up, you mess up. Its the effort that counts.
So who is worse . . .
Two fat pigs
pig one says she is on a diet, still eats like a pig but for a few weeks at a time eats healthy.
pig two mocks pig one and says why bother with a diet you are still a pig, me i dont even bother to try.
Your answer depends on your level of self respect i would guess . . .
Objectively speaking though, pig one probably ends up weighing less, at least for periods of time that pig two.
The church isn’t saying no to contraception as much as it is saying yes to the importance of life. Sex isn’t an end unto itself. Neither is eating. Eating without hunger is gluttony. Sex without the goal toward life is not life affirming. No huge outcry over the church’s stance on gluttony is there?
slowlearner said:
PS gay people aren’t evil any more than heteros.
The catholic church are not bibilical literalists.
You can be evil and be gay or hetero. Its behavior that makes the man or woman good or evil. Neither gay nor straight are supposed to be schtupping unless they are married and the goal is to make a kid. So the gay folks have the same rules as the straight ones. Its a tough rule to live up to whether you are gay or not. Period. Do the guys sin more than the straights – nope. Cause we’re all failing all the time. But its the same rule for all.
No its not a sin to be oriented gay any more than its a sin to be oriented hetero. Sin is what you do with your orientation or don’t do. . . And sin isn’t the end of the world — if it was it’d already be over. It just means you need to course correct.
Racer X said:
Slowlearner,
Thanks for the comment but we simply have different ways of looking at the world.
“Just because the rules are hard to follow doesn’t mean we do away with the rules. They are still the rules”
This is not about rules for me. I don’t give a fuck about the rules. I don’t give a fuck about much of it anymore. I simply do not believe in it anymore. It is that simple. Nor
do I feel any sort of close association with it anymore.
“Sex without the goal toward life is not life affirming.”
I do not agree. Sex can be fun and pleasurable in and of itself. You don’t need to be trying to make a kid all the time to enjoy sex.
“Neither gay nor straight are supposed to be schtupping unless they are married and the goal is to make a kid…But its the same rule for all.”
I simply do not believe that. Period. So we have fundamentally different view of things.
CL said:
Neither gay nor straight are supposed to be schtupping unless they are married and the goal is to make a kid…But its the same rule for all.
Leaving aside the fact that homosexuals can’t have sex with the goal of producing children, sex also provides a unitive function. It doesn’t have to have the “goal” of creating life, otherwise an infertile married couple would be forbidden from having sex (which of course, includes older people) and the Catholic Church would not approve NFP for any reason.